Online dating is like riding a roller coaster—a thrilling adventure with its fair share of ups and downs. I started writing this blog post (in my head) while I was at Canada's Wonderland with my miniature human.
Thinking about when I was online dating, it was a roller coaster. Luckily, I enjoy roller coasters, but with limits. So here is my take on how online dating can be compared to roller coasters.
First, know what will make you sick and avoid it. For me, it's spinning rides that go around and around.
In dating, it's people who are self-centered, who don't prioritize learning, and who are discriminatory that make me want to puke (metaphorically). They are the rides I don't want to go on. You can sometimes tell from a dating profile whether there are qualities you don't like about someone, but most of the time you have to meet in person to know.
Honestly, who is going to put on their dating profile that they are self-centered and a bully? There are some things that you just have to find out in person!
And just like a roller coaster, you might have to get spun around a few times before you know what you want or like.
I'm not afraid of any of the roller coasters. My daughter is though. This year we have talked about what she wants to do and what she feels comfortable. Each time we go to the amusement park she tries something new but there are still more rides that she is too afraid to try.
Like dating, it's important to approach situations with empathy and understanding, both for yourself and for others you may encounter along the way. They might be working themselves towards a goal you think is easy but is hard for them.
The situation can also be reversed. My mini-human loves rides that spin. Sometimes just looking at those rides makes me feel nauseous (literally, not metaphorically). The lesson here is that what makes one person happy may make another person's stomach churn. What makes a great date for you might be another person's nightmare.
To keep our relationships strong, my daughter and I compromise on what rides we go on together. We find rides that make us both happy to be together. And we find lots of time to talk while we wait in line.
Just like a roller coaster, online dating can evoke a range of emotions. There will be exhilarating highs, like connecting with someone who shares your interests and values, and heartwarming moments that leave you excited about the possibilities. Conversely, there will be lows, such as facing rejection or having a dead zone of profiles you don't vibe with.
At the amusement park my kiddo and I enjoy spending time together. Neither one of us gets to do everything we want, but both of us are enjoying our time together, living in the here and now.
Great dates can only happen when both people connect and are present in the moment. Enjoy the twists and turns and loop-de-loops. You can find joy and excitement anywhere and embrace the fun of getting to know new people, engaging in interesting conversations, and discovering shared connections. Not every match will be your forever person, and that's alright—it's all part of the ride.
When you encounter challenges or face disappointment, remember that you are not alone. Talking to your friends who understand this roller coaster are experiencing similar emotions and seeking genuine connections too.
Approach your online dating profile with openness the way you would a new ride at the amusement park. Share your genuine self, and don't go on any rides you don't want to because of social pressure, like around holidays or other special occasions. embracing your authentic self will attract those who appreciate and value you for who you are.
Like the loops and drops of a roller coaster, dating is unpredictable.
Each roller coaster in an amusement park is different, just as every person is. Be mindful of the fact that everyone has their unique story and reasons for being on this roller coaster. Be kind and respectful, even if a connection doesn't seem to be a perfect fit. Just as you have your hopes and desires, others do too, and they deserve understanding and compassion.
While on this ride, focus on compatibility rather than just superficial aspects. Look for those who resonate with your values, aspirations, and outlook on life. Remember that true connections are often based on shared values and common interests, and these can create lasting and meaningful relationships.
Throughout this roller coaster adventure, maintain a sense of humor. Laughter can lighten any twists and turns that come your way. Don't be afraid to enjoy the playful moments and embrace the joy of building connections with others.
As with any thrilling ride, remember to buckle up and prioritize your safety. Trust your instincts and set clear boundaries for yourself. Being cautious is not a sign of fear but rather a display of self-respect and self-care.
When I think back to the years I spent online dating, it was comparable to a day at an amusement park. Some dates made me feel nauseous, like the spinning rides. Some dates were disappointing - like this one ride that was very meh.
There were some rides and some dates that were over way too fast, and there were some dates and some ride lines that took way too long and were very bumpy! When I look back at the whole experience, I enjoyed it overall.
Online dating is akin to a roller coaster ride filled with both excitement and challenges. Approach it with empathy, understanding, and an open heart. Embrace the fun and thrills, savor the connections you make, and appreciate the uniqueness of each experience. Stay positive, and you might just discover the ride of a lifetime.
And I hope your next scream is one of ecstasy!
